Comments on: Eczema and Depression http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/ Eczema, dermatitis, acne, psoriasis, dry skin, skleroderma and other skin disorders. Wed, 07 Jan 2009 23:12:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Eva Emilie http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13061 Eva Emilie Thu, 21 Sep 2006 09:49:14 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13061 I wish I could help you Chris! I'd be happy to send a free sample of my balm for you to try, but unfortunately, seborrheic derm is in direct conflict with the way my home remedy works. Mine contains beeswax, and it is comedogenic. And, hon, trust me when I tell you that killing yourself is a common thought when one suffers a chronic illness, and one that is soooooo regretted later in life when you realize that there is joy and happiness waiting for you down the road, somewhere. I entertained the same idea as a 14 year old girl whose hands were like an alligator skin, and no guy in the universe would hold such a hand! The stabbing pains I felt in my heart when my kids recoiled at having to hold my hands to cross the street are indescribable. When your 3 year old is crying from being sick, and you try to stroke his cheek and <!--more--> he crys "owwww mommy owwww" and you realize that you can't even comfort and touch those you love the most in this world without being reminded that you are have "the crudd" as my kids later called it, many crazy thoughts run through your mind. Thank god I never entertained any of them but for a moment, and now, I'm horrified to think I could have ever thought such stupid things! I have a handsome and loving husband of 23 years (who loved me in spite of my cruddy hands), three great kids and a beautiful little granddaughter who willingly holds MawMaw KayKay's hands, regardless. They're clear now. But not forgotten. Girl, don't let it knock you all the way down. Be good and kind. Be smart and sharp-witted. When people say, "Goddddd . . . what's that on your face?" say something witty like "Are you always this blunt, or are you breaking out of your shell?" Smile and laugh and walk away. They will look foolish and unkind. You will look strong and prepared. People are drawn to the strength in others. Practice what you will say. Once, a coworker said to me in front of others (referring to the obvious disparity between my husband's handsome appearance and my own geeky one), "Man, how did somebody like YOU get a man that looks like THAT!!!". Everyone turned around and just stared at me in disbelief. I wanted to cry, run from the room, throw myself off a bridge (this wasn't the first or only time I would hear this). Instead, i replied, "A kind and loving soul. Whatever did yours see in you?" I came off looking like a hero, a martyr for women who don't spend lotteries for boob jobs and fake makeup (not knocking that choice, it's just not me). People came up to me and said supportive things. I felt good. Why? Because I BELIEVED what I said. I had told myself repeatedly that he loves me for my goodness and kindness and loyalty and great biscuits (learning to cook well will take you far in life!!! lol lol) And he does. But had I doubted that, just in that brief moment, I would have sank into it, consumed by the pity of the whole thing, and ruined the opportunity to publicly declare my self-confidence and faith in the finest threads of love - attached to the heart and not the eyes! Now, you don't need a man to be happy, so before anybody thinks that's the message here, it isn't. But love in every form is good for you inside and out. Accept it, give it, know it when you see it. Take your eyes off the mirror, and direct them to your heart. What's in there? If you don't like what you see, change it. It will change you too. I wish I could help you Chris! I’d be happy to send a free sample of my
balm for you to try, but unfortunately, seborrheic derm is in direct
conflict with the way my home remedy works. Mine contains beeswax, and
it is comedogenic.

And, hon, trust me when I tell you that killing yourself is a common
thought when one suffers a chronic illness, and one that is soooooo
regretted later in life when you realize that there is joy and
happiness waiting for you down the road, somewhere. I entertained the
same idea as a 14 year old girl whose hands were like an alligator
skin, and no guy in the universe would hold such a hand!

The stabbing pains I felt in my heart when my kids recoiled at having
to hold my hands to cross the street are indescribable. When your 3
year old is crying from being sick, and you try to stroke his cheek and

he crys "owwww mommy owwww" and you realize that you can’t even comfort
and touch those you love the most in this world without being reminded
that you are have "the crudd" as my kids later called it, many crazy
thoughts run through your mind. Thank god I never entertained any of
them but for a moment, and now, I’m horrified to think I could have
ever thought such stupid things! I have a handsome and loving husband
of 23 years (who loved me in spite of my cruddy hands), three great
kids and a beautiful little granddaughter who willingly holds MawMaw
KayKay’s hands, regardless. They’re clear now. But not forgotten.

Girl, don’t let it knock you all the way down. Be good and kind. Be
smart and sharp-witted. When people say, "Goddddd . . . what’s that on
your face?" say something witty like "Are you always this blunt, or are
you breaking out of your shell?" Smile and laugh and walk away. They
will look foolish and unkind. You will look strong and prepared. People
are drawn to the strength in others. Practice what you will say. Once,
a coworker said to me in front of others (referring to the obvious
disparity between my husband’s handsome appearance and my own geeky
one), "Man, how did somebody like YOU get a man that looks like
THAT!!!". Everyone turned around and just stared at me in disbelief. I
wanted to cry, run from the room, throw myself off a bridge (this
wasn’t the first or only time I would hear this). Instead, i
replied, "A kind and loving soul. Whatever did yours see in you?" I
came off looking like a hero, a martyr for women who don’t spend
lotteries for boob jobs and fake makeup (not knocking that choice, it’s
just not me). People came up to me and said supportive things. I felt
good. Why? Because I BELIEVED what I said. I had told myself repeatedly
that he loves me for my goodness and kindness and loyalty and great
biscuits (learning to cook well will take you far in life!!! lol lol)
And he does. But had I doubted that, just in that brief moment, I would
have sank into it, consumed by the pity of the whole thing, and ruined
the opportunity to publicly declare my self-confidence and faith in the
finest threads of love - attached to the heart and not the eyes!

Now, you don’t need a man to be happy, so before anybody thinks that’s
the message here, it isn’t. But love in every form is good for you
inside and out. Accept it, give it, know it when you see it. Take your
eyes off the mirror, and direct them to your heart. What’s in there? If
you don’t like what you see, change it. It will change you too.

]]> By: Neva Marjory http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13048 Neva Marjory Wed, 13 Sep 2006 18:25:20 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13048 Please consider using a Sea Buckthorne salve and soap - I have a website to a woman who makes her own products many with organic ingredients - I have personally used her products in the past with great results - I have just joined this group - my first message has not posted yet with other info - if you are interested you can email for the address Please consider using a Sea Buckthorne salve and soap - I have a website
to a woman who makes her own products many with organic ingredients - I
have personally used her products in the past with great results - I
have just joined this group - my first message has not posted yet with
other info - if you are interested you can email for the address

]]> By: Ericka Rana http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13040 Ericka Rana Sat, 09 Sep 2006 14:55:29 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-13040 my dd11 suffers greatly from her depression because of eczma, everyone says snap out of it, could be worse ect. but she feels that everyone stares at her constantly and they do. she feels like a freak. people aren't embarressed to make comments either and quite often some one will say try this my so and so had eczma once and this worked. and they will talk about a patch of eczma. when i point out we've tried everything and it's different when your whole body is covered they get all weird. one thing we have learnt from trying everything and i mean everything is that creams ect only manage it and sometimes not even that. it's enviromental and dietry that plays the biggest part. everyone treats us like we are weidos because we try to watch our diet and chemicals ect. they try to feed my poor deprived daughter junk against my will. then she gets more depressed because she's different. she is allergic to wheat but they try to feed her stuff with wheat in it and think its no big deal. you wouldn't give a diabetic sugar! sorry went of track abit just get frustrated sometimes. <!--more--> by the way she she got pulled of netball court once because she scratched and it bled and there is a no blood rule. she spends alot of time crying or hiding in room melinda Chris, I know how you feel. My eczema and not being able to lead a normal life it seems like I stay depressed every other day. People that don't have eczema never really truly understand and the others just tell me to pray and think positive. How can a person be positive if you ever have had someone ask you if you are contagious or when someone can look at your skin such as your face, arms, hands and you know what they are thinking. It seems like I have lost so much of the living in my life. All I can say is to cry a little bit then keep you head held high. You know what you have to do like watch the soap you are using and stay on your doctor to give you some relief until you find out if it is something you are eating or if it is an allergen or chemical that is making your face so sensitive. Good Luck Terri my dd11 suffers greatly from her depression because of eczma, everyone says snap
out of it, could be worse ect. but she feels that everyone stares at her
constantly and they do. she feels like a freak. people aren’t embarressed to
make comments either and quite often some one will say try this my so and so had
eczma once and this worked. and they will talk about a patch of eczma. when i
point out we’ve tried everything and it’s different when your whole body is
covered they get all weird. one thing we have learnt from trying everything and
i mean everything is that creams ect only manage it and sometimes not even that.
it’s enviromental and dietry that plays the biggest part. everyone treats us
like we are weidos because we try to watch our diet and chemicals ect. they try
to feed my poor deprived daughter junk against my will. then she gets more
depressed because she’s different. she is allergic to wheat but they try to feed
her stuff with wheat in it and think its no big deal. you wouldn’t give a
diabetic sugar!
sorry went of track abit just get frustrated sometimes.

by the way she she got pulled of netball court once because she scratched and it
bled and there is a no blood rule. she spends alot of time crying or hiding in
room
melinda

Chris, I know how you feel. My eczema and not being able to lead a normal
life it seems like I stay depressed every other day. People that don’t have
eczema never really truly understand and the others just tell me to pray and
think positive. How can a person be positive if you ever have had someone ask
you if you are contagious or when someone can look at your skin such as your
face, arms, hands and you know what they are thinking. It seems like I have
lost so much of the living in my life. All I can say is to cry a little bit
then keep you head held high. You know what you have to do like watch the soap
you are using and stay on your doctor to give you some relief until you find out
if it is something you are eating or if it is an allergen or chemical that is
making your face so sensitive.

Good Luck

Terri

]]> By: Susan Anneliese http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12995 Susan Anneliese Sun, 20 Aug 2006 21:43:42 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12995 Are you sure it's not Rosacea? Alison Hi Chris' Not to worry. I'm also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring & asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been through the worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red Crab; flaky skins as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I thought of killing myself for once. One thing i know is that it's part of life that i;ve to go through. I almost got back my confidence now! I'm just praying hard that i'll recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still use my Sunglasses & Hat when i go out. Just trying to be cool! <!--more--> :) SueJ Good Luck Terri SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. --------------------------------- SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. --------------------------------- Are you sure it’s not Rosacea?

Alison

Hi Chris’

Not to worry. I’m also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a
young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring
& asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been
through the worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red
Crab; flaky skins as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I
thought of killing myself for once. One thing i know is that it’s part of
life that i;ve to go through. I almost got back my confidence now! I’m just
praying hard that i’ll recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still
use my Sunglasses & Hat when i go out. Just trying to be cool!

:) SueJ

Good Luck

Terri

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]]> By: elicia140 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12989 elicia140 Fri, 18 Aug 2006 21:07:21 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12989 I don't like hearing this talk about depression. I used to be severe and was depressed about it too, also when I started getting it on my face. I think the depression and stress make the skin condition worse. Anyway I used to think of others who are suffering worse, especially kids with terminal or disabling illnesses. I know you can feel bad with a skin conditon but you just need to keep trying to find something that will help. Please don't be depressed, to all on here. Know that we are out here and understand what you are going through. I think that was a comfort to me when I first found this list. Just to know there are others out there who understand. Even if our families are supportive they can't truly understand what we are going through or how we feel. Ignore strangers stares or comments, they are just ignorant. I had gotten comments from strangers in the past too, and I even cried one time when this older man said I had a vampire bite on my neck. <!--more--> Other young guys used to say, I see those hickies...I would get mad. It's not their business and they have no idea what it is. To all, hang in there and I wish you some relief. Not to worry. I'm also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring & asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been through the worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red Crab; flaky skins as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I thought of killing myself for once. One thing i know is that it's part of life that i;ve to go through. I almost got back my confidence now! I'm just praying hard that i'll recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still use my Sunglasses & Hat when i go out. Just trying to be cool! :) SueJ I don’t like hearing this talk about depression. I used to be severe and was
depressed about it too, also when I started getting it on my face. I think
the depression and stress make the skin condition worse. Anyway I used to
think of others who are suffering worse, especially kids with terminal or
disabling illnesses. I know you can feel bad with a skin conditon but you just
need
to keep trying to find something that will help.

Please don’t be depressed, to all on here. Know that we are out here and
understand what you are going through. I think that was a comfort to me when I
first found this list. Just to know there are others out there who understand.
Even if our families are supportive they can’t truly understand what we are
going through or how we feel. Ignore strangers stares or comments, they are
just ignorant. I had gotten comments from strangers in the past too, and I
even cried one time when this older man said I had a vampire bite on my neck.

Other young guys used to say, I see those hickies…I would get mad. It’s not
their business and they have no idea what it is.

To all, hang in there and I wish you some relief.

Not to worry. I’m also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a
young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring &
asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been through
the worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red Crab; flaky
skins as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I thought of
killing myself for once. One thing i know is that it’s part of life that i;ve to
go
through. I almost got back my confidence now! I’m just praying hard that i’ll
recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still use my Sunglasses & Hat
when i go out. Just trying to be cool!
:) SueJ

]]> By: Reed Tamatha http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12986 Reed Tamatha Thu, 17 Aug 2006 20:54:30 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12986 I have definitely gone thru periods of depression over this and I don't currenty have it on my face. The was a period of about 2 years where it kept appearing on my face and around my mouth when I was in my teens - I couldn't move my mouth and the pain was excrutiating. It's been a long time, tho' - I can only imagine what it must be like now. I've had the same problem on other parts of my body when I have been extremely stressed, when my diet went to hell and I just wasn't taking care of myself. And then it's really easy for me to get depressed, angry, frustrated and feeling hopeless about it. I'm not so sure how I cope with it, really. I know that I panic a lot and I get really stressed and that, at some point, I realize I'm not alone with these feelings. Reading thru these postings and seeing what people have to say has been really valuable to me - so many things I wouldn't have known or heard about and so many times, just knowing that other people were having the same troubles that I'd been having was incredibly valuable. <!--more--> I think it's okay to get depressed about this - it's pretty damned intimidating. But then try to move on, unless you are talking clinical depression, in which case you should probably talk to someone about it. I've been thinking about going to therapy about this myself because I'm sure that, on some pretty obvious level, it's effecting the way that I behave toward myself and other people. I'm not sure if this is helpful, I guess I'm just trying to say that I think I understand where you're at. K SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. --------------------------------- I have definitely gone thru periods of depression over this and I don’t
currenty have it on my face. The was a period of about 2 years where it kept
appearing on my face and around my mouth when I was in my teens - I couldn’t
move my mouth and the pain was excrutiating. It’s been a long time, tho’ - I can
only imagine what it must be like now.

I’ve had the same problem on other parts of my body when I have been extremely
stressed, when my diet went to hell and I just wasn’t taking care of myself. And
then it’s really easy for me to get depressed, angry, frustrated and feeling
hopeless about it. I’m not so sure how I cope with it, really. I know that I
panic a lot and I get really stressed and that, at some point, I realize I’m not
alone with these feelings. Reading thru these postings and seeing what people
have to say has been really valuable to me - so many things I wouldn’t have
known or heard about and so many times, just knowing that other people were
having the same troubles that I’d been having was incredibly valuable.

I think it’s okay to get depressed about this - it’s pretty damned
intimidating. But then try to move on, unless you are talking clinical
depression, in which case you should probably talk to someone about it. I’ve
been thinking about going to therapy about this myself because I’m sure that, on
some pretty obvious level, it’s effecting the way that I behave toward myself
and other people.

I’m not sure if this is helpful, I guess I’m just trying to say that I think I
understand where you’re at.

K

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]]> By: Ronda Thomasine http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12985 Ronda Thomasine Thu, 17 Aug 2006 13:16:52 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12985 Hi Chris' Not to worry. I'm also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring & asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been through the worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red Crab; flaky skins as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I thought of killing myself for once. One thing i know is that it's part of life that i;ve to go through. I almost got back my confidence now! I'm just praying hard that i'll recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still use my Sunglasses & Hat when i go out. Just trying to be cool! :) SueJ Good Luck <!--more--> Terri SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. --------------------------------- SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. --------------------------------- Hi Chris’

Not to worry. I’m also having psoriasis on my face. Kinda tough here- as a
young unmarried gal! it;s like been humiliated everyway i go. People staring &
asking & even recommending all sorts of solutions. Somehow i;ve been through the
worst during my healing crisis. My face really looks like red Crab; flaky skins
as if burnt! it just got worst under the red hot sun. I thought of killing
myself for once. One thing i know is that it’s part of life that i;ve to go
through. I almost got back my confidence now! I’m just praying hard that i’ll
recover as soon as possible. For the moment, i still use my Sunglasses & Hat
when i go out. Just trying to be cool!
:) SueJ

Good Luck

Terri

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]]> By: Otto Kimbery http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12963 Otto Kimbery Fri, 11 Aug 2006 04:19:25 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12963 I finally went to buy Black Cumin seed oil at the local GNC...but they didn't have any! The sales lady even checked at the other stores, but they said they've never heard of it. Does anyone know a good place where I can buy it? I live in the Twin Cities, Minnesota...jic if anyone else does. Good Luck Terri SPONSORED LINKS Health and wellness Alternative medicine Health wellness product Health and wellness program Diet fitness health nutrition wellness Health promotion and wellness Visit your group "eczemapsoriasis" on the web. <!--more--> --------------------------------- I finally went to buy Black Cumin seed oil at the local GNC…but they didn’t
have any! The sales lady even checked at the other stores, but they said they’ve
never heard of it. Does anyone know a good place where I can buy it? I live in
the Twin Cities, Minnesota…jic if anyone else does.

Good Luck

Terri

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]]> By: Jan Allene http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12962 Jan Allene Fri, 11 Aug 2006 01:38:20 +0000 http://www.skin-care.dmfans.org/2006/08/10/eczema-and-depression/#comment-12962 Chris, I know how you feel. My eczema and not being able to lead a normal life it seems like I stay depressed every other day. People that don't have eczema never really truly understand and the others just tell me to pray and think positive. How can a person be positive if you ever have had someone ask you if you are contagious or when someone can look at your skin such as your face, arms, hands and you know what they are thinking. It seems like I have lost so much of the living in my life. All I can say is to cry a little bit then keep you head held high. You know what you have to do like watch the soap you are using and stay on your doctor to give you some relief until you find out if it is something you are eating or if it is an allergen or chemical that is making your face so sensitive. Good Luck Terri Chris, I know how you feel. My eczema and not being able to lead a normal life
it seems like I stay depressed every other day. People that don’t have eczema
never really truly understand and the others just tell me to pray and think
positive. How can a person be positive if you ever have had someone ask you if
you are contagious or when someone can look at your skin such as your face,
arms, hands and you know what they are thinking. It seems like I have lost so
much of the living in my life. All I can say is to cry a little bit then keep
you head held high. You know what you have to do like watch the soap you are
using and stay on your doctor to give you some relief until you find out if it
is something you are eating or if it is an allergen or chemical that is making
your face so sensitive.

Good Luck

Terri

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